"So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other."
It is one of the most exhausting and toxic things that you can put yourself through trying to be enough for someone who is never going to be satisfied. You'll waste so much of your time contemplating how to play that game when in reality it doesn't matter what strategy you choose, you're always going to lose. And when you lose, you're going to be mad and you're going to be frustrated, and if you're anything like me, the competitiveness inside of you will only cause you to try harder which in turn, will only make you lose quicker and harder than before. Exhausting, draining, and ultimately self-deprecating. So why do we do this?
Maybe the people who make us feel this way aren't bad people at all. Maybe they're just confused, or lonely, or just feeling unable to let themselves be happy.
However, I truly don't believe that by sticking around and letting yourself continually be dragged down by another person is what God meant by telling us to love others. Of course everyone has issues, it's part of being human. Everyone has something that they're not proud of or something that they can't overcome no matter what they try to do to fix it. But it's so important to understand that it's not our job to be someone else's saving grace. That's why Jesus took that role upon himself. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to let them find their own way. Let God lead them back towards the path that helps them grow, and you can save yourself some frustration by taking a few steps out of the way. You don't need to be the person who fills another persons void. You'll only be satisfied when you can fill your own. You don't need someone else to make you feel happy. You'll only be satisfied when you realize that you can be happy on your own.
Being in a relationship isn't about patching each others holes and then digging them back out whenever we get scared. We've all been conditioned to want what it is that we can't have, and we don't realize how much we're hurting the people we care about by living in this state of mind. Nobody is perfect, and even if you did find that perfect person, eventually you'd have the choice to become complacent and feel like you need to go searching for more. And that's why relationships shouldn't be rooted in perfection, they should be rooted around accepting each other's lack, being patient while we figure out how to patch our own holes, and creating something together that's absolutely beautiful and unique because of it.